The article was talking about the importance of emotional support and having a safe space to be vulnerable, or in other words...having a " soft place to fall". In healthy relationships this shows up as partners supporting and encouraging each other in tough times. Support and empathy can be shown by one partner touching the other, a pat on the back or even a hug. A person that is experiencing heartbreak or disappointment sometimes feels an overwhelming sense of despair as well. A kind and loving tone and a simple touch can be as effective as a long talk. Simply being there and showing that you care, can turn around a situation which may have been spiraling out of control.
Who is better at doing this, men or women? My guess would be that more women than men, at least understand, the importance of emotional support -- but I can't say for sure. Maybe it is an individual thing and is not gender specific -- but what I do know, is that if emotional support is missing, it can send a relationship to the breaking point.
Lack of emotional support can breed resentment. Resentment occurs when we don't talk about something that we think, feel, want or need or we speak about it with no resolution. Resentment can poison a relationship. The longer it lingers, the more distance and bitterness we
experience. Healthy relationships cannot be one sided. The next time you find yourself wondering, if this is really the person you fell in love with -- first ask yourself if you have let resentment poison your relationship. As scary as it may be, we first have to tell our partner what we want before we can blame them for not giving it to us!
I'm Just sayin!
No comments:
Post a Comment